This is how it starts. “I’m mad at him because he’s mad at me. Or maybe it’s the other way round. It doesn’t have to be that way. YOU can change it, without even letting him/her know what you are doing.
I’ve told you before that I believe in miracles. I mean man-made (well, person-made) miracles. My definition of miracle is an unexpected, positive result beyond your wildest imagination. Let me give you an example.
I talked about Bill and Mary in a 19 year marriage where the thrill was gone.
I suggested smiling at him/her every day, telling something amusing from the day. Reinterpret events to find the humor.
This kind of miracles doesn’t just happen. You have to make these miracles.
Here’s how you do it. You have to give your partner one compliment or thank you a day. Just one is necessary, but one is necessary. Here’s the warning; it cannot be sarcastic; it must be genuine. (You can try a version of this at work.)
It can be “I like that tie.” or “Thanks for calling when you were late at work.” Anything, as long as you believe it and there are no strings attached. No “you look really nice —- FOR A CHANGE”. If your partner and kids stare at you, don’t say anything, don’t have attitude. Just be natural and keep moving.
Do this for a week or three. Even if you know that you are divorcing him/her. DO THIS.
If nothing else, it will be good for your next relationship.
You WILL experience a miracle. Remember, my definition of miracle is an unexpected, positive result beyond your wildest imagination.
It Changes the Environment so He/she Behaves Differently.
Your partner will not change, but how he/she behaves and responds to you will change. It’s amazing, but if you think about it, it makes sense. People respond to their environment. When people are angry in their environment, they also are angry – even if they have nothing to be angry about. It’s like singing the song you hear on the radio. You are changing the “music” in the background of your life. You will find it harder to maintain your anger.
Are you Ready to do the Work of Miracles? Give it a try and then post your experience below. Please.
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